Advice in Private

BismiLLah Rrahmanni Rraheem.

Assalaam Alaykum Wa RahmatuLlah Wabarakatuh.


Giving advice should be done privately
 If your intention is sincere in wanting to help the person
rather than exposing his defects it should be kept quiet

- “Verily, those who love that the evil and indecent actions of those
who believe should be propagated (and spread), they will have a
painful torment in this world and in the Hereafter. And Allah knows and you know not.
And had it not been for the grace of Allah and His mercy on you, (Allah would have hastened the punishment on you) and that Allah is full of kindness, Most Merciful”
(An Noor, 24:19, 20).


- Hadith: “Whosoever condemns his brother for a sin (he committed)
that he repented from, will not die until he has committed it (i.e.
the same sin) himself.”

- Al-Fudail, one of the salaf, said: “The believer conceals (the sin of his brother) and advises (him), while the evildoer disgraces and condemns (him).”

- One should refrain from idle conversation and gossip
which may lead to discussing other’s faults.

From Etiquettes of Giving Advice.